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lit2603 asked:
My 15 months old is currently testing limits and my patience. I do not believe in spanking or any other type of corporal punishment to discipline a child. Ladies please help share your best ways to stem aggressive behavior. e.g hitting and shouting.

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Arora Valley answered:
Thanks for your question! Our Healthcare Expert will be answering some questions every week but in the meantime, here's a little tip from our Careline! Hitting and shouting is a natural and normal behaviour for children who do not always have the words or the skills to handle difficult situations. Toddlers and preschoolers will often respond physically to situations that upset them because they have not yet learned other ways to respond. Some ideas for dealing with such situations are: -Reward good behaviour. Rather than giving your child attention only when he's misbehaving, praise him for being good whenever you can. -Follow up aggressive behaviour with logical consequences. -Keep your temper. Shouting, hitting or telling your child he's naughty won't get him to change his behavior. -Set clear limits. Try to respond immediately whenever your toddler is aggressive. Don't wait until he hits for the third time. -Be consistent. Whenever you can, react to each episode the way you did before. -Help your toddler to be active. Unless your toddler gets a chance to burn off his abundant energy, you may find he's a terror at home. Give him plenty of unstructured play time. -Don't be afraid to seek help. Sometimes, aggressive behaviour requires more intervention than a parent can provide. You may refer to someone who specialises in child behaviour.

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Fonnie_Lo answered:
Though it is normal for this age of child to express their frustration by physical behaviour more than by words, tell her consistently it is not right to shout and hit. Be calm and firm in your tone is important. Study shows that it doesn't work well by spanking or using corporal punishment to discipline a child. A child sometimes will do something that parents do not like in order to get attention. Try to identify and anticipate situations that trigger your child's aggressive behaviour, it may help you to stop it before it starts. Redirect or distract your child to a creative and safe activity when she shows distress. Praise her for the behaviour that you would like to reinforce. Please talk to your doctor if you feel your child's aggressive behaviour is out of your hand.

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MissyLove answered:
I guessed it is common for child at this age to behave this way. They are more temperamental and vent their anger easily. I have read an article on child's behaviour and it says it is good to let the child vent out his/her anger as after that they will be more calm which is always the case for my child. If she starts to vent anger and throw tantrum, I will let her be alone or place her at one corner to calm down. She will continue to cry but I will stay away from her and look at her from one corner where she can't notice me. She will eventually quiet down and come look for me. This works quite well and somehow her behaviour has improved a lot. No harm trying.

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lit2603 answered:
my girl is very active. she doesn't hit because she is upset she did it for fun...laughing while hitting our faces .. :(

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Tulipzblossom answered:
I can understand how u feel cos i hv been thru that! I personally tink time-out is a good method. Put the kid to one corner or room n tel him to tink thru why he is being punished for that. A 15 mth old shd understand abit on what's a wrong behaviour.

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